Happy Hump Day World!!! As well as Happy International Women’s Day!!! And I of course had to make a post because well.. I’m a woman! I know you may find that hard to believe with my all femininity and whatnot 🙂
I told you I would make a better effort at finding time to blog and I AM! I swear I am! So… with that being said… Here is a Wednesday’s Cup of Binc session…
What is the main reason we have trust issues in our relationships?
I asked DJ (the MAN/BF lol) this very question last night, his response to what is the majority of you will say and that’s all the cheating, past relationships, scenarios he really could think of.. Then I asked him; but if there was one thing that all those things could equal to he didn’t really have an answer.
Then I said….
What if I told you that the root, the very stem to all the trust issues in relationships was LOVE… what would you say?
Makes total sense right!?!!
Let me break it down some with a story or two…So I have been reading/listening (yes listening to the audio version) of The Shack (no spoilers or anything on the book or the movie but I HIGHLY suggest you go see the movie and still read the book) and there are some interesting points and conversations that I am now having my own self with the lord and in my walk with Christ and this was one of them that not only related to my walk and relationship in and with him but also with my loved ones.
What is the reason we don’t fully trust God?
Because we don’t know or think his love for us runs as deep as it does; when you know someone loves you, your trust is given without hesitation. You give them your trust in exchange for their love in most cases well in our human cases that is. But the beauty of the lord is he loves you regardless if you trust him but he wants you to trust him so that he can work beautiful things out in your life, his purpose and plan for you can only work if you trust he has it all under control. And don’t think of love so much as a romantic thing or family thing but love in its purest form, just wanting good for another life outside of yourself. So in our natural relationships we lack giving trust sometimes because we don’t truly know if they love us; and we lack having trust because we haven’t shown that person their trust is safe because we love them. Think about a child they trust their parent because they KNOW they are loved, they don’t think twice about their needs being met or being taken care of their trust is fully vested. Now take a good deep look at your relationships (current or past) and see if they were lacking trust was it truly deeply because you questioned the love they had for you? Let me tell you something someone cheating on you shows a lack of love I don’t care how you or they spin it when you truly love someone you don’t hurt them with infidelity you don’t so again… it lacks love.
Well I hope I opened up some deep thinking or conversations for you to start exploring for yourself; the joy of being alive is always being able to learn and explore for yourself.
Till next time